Mommy, Please Let Me Fall
Toddler-Walking.png” alt=”" width=”192″ height=”163″ />Children are amazing. They are energetic, excited and natural explorers. They are courageous and curious and, when the time is right, they start to conquer the world one step at a time.
A part of this conquest includes learning to walk, an experience with more lessons than meets the eye. As it is with many new learning experiences, children are born equipped with something inside which guides them to begin to eat, talk and walk.
A Soul Keeper- parent, someone who nurtures authenticity and helps their child maintain the spark for life that they are born with, acts as a guide themselves. They recognize the innate wisdom of their child, call it instinct if you like, which sets them crawling and then walking and then running. Soul Keepers realize the importance of childhood experiences, even just learning to walk. Thus, they allow life and nature to lead the way, allowing the baby to practice crawling, walking and even falling.
Falling? Yes, falling!
No, Soul Keepers do not let their children fall against a sharp corner or into a rock, but in a baby-safe home they recognize the importance of allowing a child to learn what it is to fall against the sofa or on the carpet. Learning to walk offers many lessons – it helps the baby learn automatic balance, automatic responses such as putting their hands in front of themselves when they do fall and it begins to give them an inner understanding about the laws of physics.
On the other hand, babies that are protected from a fall learn something completely different and, perhaps, misleading. Instead of learning that they need stay in balance, their cause and effect experience tells them that something will catch their fall (of course, that something is either mom, dad or their caretaker). Their experience tells them that they do not need to focus on being imbalanced because no consequence follows the experience, just as no consequence follows the experience of being balanced.
Generally speaking, a baby who is not allowed to fall has an over-protective parent. A baby who is not watched, falls and injures themselves has an irresponsible parent. The baby that is watched and allowed their (safe or harmless) experience has a Soul-Keeping parent. These are parents that are allowing and encouraging the baby or child’s exploration and development. They are parents who monitor carefully while seeming to have a “hands-off” approach because they are not hovering over their child. They are also the kind of parents who are the first ones to come to their baby or child when they fall and hurt themselves, offering compassion for their experience.
Even falling and crying offers valuable life experience for babies: we all fall, physically or in other ways, throughout life and we all get sad and even cry- even as adults. Those of us who learned how to fall, feel the hurt and then move on are the ones who tend to handle life better. Learning to handle the good and the bad experiences or feelings in life is important and a useful life skill, and one that we learn or miss very early in life.
Kalyn B Raphael is the Co-Founder of the Golden Flow™ System, is a Coach of Coaches, a Channel, Author, and a Spiritual Life Coach specializing in spirituality and parenting. She dedicates herself to helping others live in the flow of well-being by living their authenticity. Learn about Kalyn’s coaching at http://coachmaven.com or subscribe to her women’s newsletter at http://golden-flow-system.com/joynews (http://golden-flow-system NULL.com/joynews)